Is this a dream?
Am I lost in the subconscious of my mind
Will I ever wake from these nightmarish binds
Or is life really as it seems?
Forgive and forget?
You’re kidding me.
I don’t believe in that bullshit
Forgiveness should be earned
But forgetting? That’s just absurd.
You should never forget what’s been done to you
To say otherwise is a narrow point of view.
Forgive and forget…
Might fill you with regret,
Instead of dumping that garbage and being your best.
Learn from the past and move on
But don’t ever forget the things that went wrong.
~A
This may sound a bit harsh. But the point is, you can absolutely forgive someone, IF YOU CHOOSE TO, but you should never FORGET what they may have done. If we forget the actions of another towards us, we will never find happiness. And that person will continue to do those things, because they know they can get away with it. The cycle continues and the actions get worse and more frequent. Learn from your experiences with others, don’t sweep them under the rug.
Be happy, be humble, be kind.
Ink & Embers 
I agree fully there are things I’d rather forget but then thought no they made me stronger getting through them made me who I am so I not only forgive but say thank you for making me I if I can get through THAT I can get through anything
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Absolutely! No matter how difficult the situation may have been, the experience needs to be remembered so that we may learn, adapt, and change when necessary.
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100% correct!
Kinda creepy, but I was thinking about doing a post with quotes I don’t like and the “forgive and forget” is definitely in the top 5 that I just can’t stand.
I hate how society forces us about the difficulties in the past and “just be happy”.
Most people compomise these feelings with a coping mechanism.
For me it is OCD, but for others it could be addiction or just put up a happy act everyday.
None of that is healthy.
Forgetting is a HUGE process and for many people goes hand in hand with therapy and medication. And therefore shall never be underestimated!
I love how you described all of this and I couldn’t agree with it more!
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Thank you SO much!! It is a terrible phrase and I hope you do a post about them, I’d love to see it!
I agree on the coping mechanisms, and dang, is it hard to cope with things from childhood. It’s so wrong to me that people tell kids to forgive and forget.
Oh someone hurt you? “Just forget about it.”
Sooo many issues arise from that later in life as we let people just walk all over us. But we were taught to forgive so easily, and that other person knows that. Then you become an easy target over and over again.
All that being said, I can happily say I no longer do this, and I will not EVER say it to my children!
I’ll hop off my soap box 😂 thanks for stopping by and chatting with me though!
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