My sweet baby girl, you’re only 6 months old right now (which, believe me, that 6 months flew by as if it were only days.) but I have some very important stuff to tell you. I know most children don’t want their parents advice, but I hope that you will at least try to understand what I say, and take it to heart.
This is important, my little love.
This is hard truth.
And this is also hard to say. It it is necessary, so that you will be able to learn from my experiences, so that you don’t have to.
So here it goes…
Not all people are good. In fact a real good person is far and few between. And even more so when you’re looking for a life partner.
I grew up watching wonderful love stories, where the men were romantic and sweet, and selfless, they did everything out of the love they had for their woman.
But from my experience, that just isn’t the case. I’ve met many, many selfish people, and selfish men were no exception. Many men only want one thing. Sex. And a clean house, dinner done for them, laundry not only washed, dried, and folded, but set out in more than plain sight. They want you to be sexy all the time, fit, and looking perfect. Yet it doesn’t matter if they let themselves go.
But sweetie, that’s not at all how it should be. Don’t ever let yourself feel like you have to be stuck with someone who doesn’t treat you like a goddess. You are beautiful no matter what, whether you just rolled out of bed with wild hair and groggy eyes, or you’re in you best dressed going to a fancy restaurant. You look perfect all the time, and you will look you’re best, if you feel happy and confident.
Never let anyone take advantage of you. Never let anyone push you over, or shove you aside. But humble, but stand your ground, and have the courage to say when it’s enough. This world can be harsh in a thousand different ways, but you will always be able to overcome.
Even if you feel at your lowest, like nothing can get better. Life will ALWAYS, always get better. Nothing is permanent, things will always change, and that can feel scary. But change can lead you amazing things, and amazing people.
Things can also seem wonderful for many years, and then after some time things might change, or you might change and it no longer feels wonderful, it may feel wrong to you now. And that’s ok, changes can take a very long time to happen, and you may not notice. Other changes are instant, and those tend to be the most overwhelming at the time. But don’t let the fear of the unknown scare you, just remember that you have many things in life that are always the same. Gravity will always keep your feet on the ground, the skies will always be above you, to show you a bright warm sun, or beautiful stars, and even if you can’t always see them, they are always there. Just like me.
I will always be with you, whether you’re in my arms or miles away. Whether your happy, sad, or anywhere in between, I will always be with you, because you are a part of me, and I a part of you.
I want nothing more than to give you a wonderful start to life, so that you can create a wonderful rest of your life. To help you be able to choose the good over the bad, love over hate, and wisdom over naivety. I want to give you the tools to build a better life. Because that’s what mothers are meant to do. To love their children with every ounce of their hearts, and to help them build a better life than they had.
No matter how hard things get, just know that we are both doing this for the first time, you and I are growing together, learning together, and getting to know each other more everyday, and although this is the first time I’ve had you, held you, and loved you, just know that my love for you has never faltered, and though it seems impossible it grows more and more every day.
I look at you and can’t believe how lucky I am, but the future scares me. To think that you could end up being in situations that I have been in, it terrifies me. So please know that if I seem like I’m interfering with your life, all I really want to do is protect you, to keep you from the horrors I’ve had to face. I want only to show you what true love is.
So my sweet little miss, I love you, more than I will ever be able to say.
~Mama
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